Friday, December 7, 2012

LDRs


I'm in a long-distance relationship with almost everyone I care about.

LDRs suck more than the buttload of liposuction Joan Rivers had on her trollish face. They're difficult. Frustrating. Disappointing. It's hard not to feel so disconnected since I'm at least ten hours away from all of them here in Mexico. No matter what, I can't help but feel like everyone is slowly slipping away from me like Wilson, the volleyball, in that tragic scene of Cast Away. Damn ocean.

Keeping up can be hard. We're all so busy. So absorbed in our own lives. I hate that. I want to be there, where they all are. I want to be involved. Lately that seems about as possible as my buns ever looking Kim Kardashian's (not that I'm trying or anything, yikes). It seems nearly impossible to avoid.

This been a hard year for many reasons, but mostly because of these LDRs. Distance is just the absolute pits. I wish traveling was as easy as flushing myself down a toilet to arrive wherever I wanted to go, Harry Potter style.

I miss all of the beautiful women who stood beside me on the best day. They're all wonderful people who have so enriched my life. I miss my family, laughing with them and being overly competitive with board games. I miss them all.

We're all where God wants us, I know. But sometimes I just need to wallow.
 

19 comments:

Helene said...

I feel you on this. some of my very best friends live so far away and it makes me so sad.

Blake @ Steady 360 said...

I kind of know how you feel. It was especially difficult when my friends graduated high school and we all went to separate colleges. It was tough to see everyone departing and growing apart. The truth is, though, real friends are always there--no matter the distance! And even though I didn't get to talk to them as much because we were off making new friends, I knew I could always pick up the phone and we'd pick up exactly where we left off.

Sometimes I still feel like I am growing apart from people (or they're growing apart from me) even when we're not in a LDR. I guess that is life, though. I need to start putting more effort into keeping friendships alive. That's definitely my weakness..I get so busy (and sometimes honestly so unmotivated) that I forget to call people or ask how they're doing.

I hope you have a great day! I love your blog, by the way.

Katie Did What said...

Aww girl, I know how hard LDRs are- I lived in Paris for almost a year, and it is NOT easy feeling so disconnected from everyone you love. Wallow away, sister. p.s. you look SO GORGEOUS in your wedding photos! Just had to throw that in there ;)

xo

Ragan said...

girl, i know how you feel. it is a totally empty feeling. and it is so hard to not let it consume! but hang in there, distance only makes the heart grow fonder...right? :)

Wifessionals said...

SAME exact situation...They are all at least a 3 hour plane ride away ):

Andrea said...

I know EXACTLY what you mean!! My family is hundreds of miles away and I absolutely HATE it. Especially when my little niece is growing like a weed and doing all kinds of fun stuff...and I'm missing it ALL. She actually cried when she saw me the last time I was home. Totally broke my heart :( Pretty much all of my close friends are far away, too. And my boyfriend is 150 miles away in upstate NY. Keep your head up, girl! Sometimes, it's all you can do :)

Andrea - alhadventures.blogspot.com

Kaity said...

Oh my goodness, girl. This is such a timely post. I've been feeling like the worst friend in the world because I think I've talked to my LDR best friends/bridesmaids maybe once since we got married over three months ago. Some days I feel like Chuck is the only friend I have left! I totally took for granted the proximity to my friends I had in college and I miss them like crazy!

funsizetessa said...

I'm in the same pickle! It can be so hard and sad. But I wouldn't trade this adventure. I also love seeing you I your wedding day. Talk about the most gorgeous bride ever!

Allison said...

Aw that is so hard! All of my friends from college live far away and you are right...it is so hard to keep up and stay connected. We need to create a working teleporter!

utopiaisabookstore said...

LDRs do suck, especially around the holidays. My family and many of my friends are in CA and I'm in Missouri (with my husband and daughter so not totally alone). It's been a hard adjustment.

Veronica Lee Burns said...

Even though I'm still in Norman and do have some friends here...I can relate. I wish my best friends were closer all the time. Phone conversations just don't cut it. And family, they're far and a but load of money away! Totally okay to wallow sometimes. :)
ps: will you swap with me?

Annie said...

Oh, girl, I'm with you. I live in MI and all of my best friends are flung across the country. Technology helps to keep in touch, but it's not the same as living nearby and being able to see each other whenever you'd like.

Katie said...

I know what you mean. We live across the country from all of our family, and sometimes it's just really really hard. Internet hugs.

carrieburke said...

I know exactly how you feel about LDRs! I lived in Thailand for 6 years and after graduating high school last year, me and all of my friends now go to different colleges all over the world and I miss them all so much! I now have a new found appreciation for school holidays because I always jump on the opportunity to go visit my friends when I have days off.

Carrie

Rachel said...

I'm in an LDR with my own parents, siblings, and every one of the friends I grew up with. Like, I haven't seen my Dad or my little sisters in 2 1/2 years because they live a $1,500 plane ticket away from where I do. There's so many days when my heart just longs to be home again--to be with my people. I don't know if I ever will be but I pray that when I'm living in the place God has for me that I will feel that contented feeling of being home again.

Kristen Danielle said...

First of all, I love how you referred to living in SA as living in Mexico. That's truly how I feel most of the time living in Houston.

Secondly, I can definitely empathize with you on this post. I can't even imagine how difficult that must be. Luckily, I'm sure you have the kind of friends that you can pick up with one day and feel like the relationship never skipped a beat.

Gorgeous photos, by the way! You always remind me of Carrie Underwood in your wedding photos.

xo

Little Lady said...

Beautiful pics! I totally understand the LDRS thing! My sister and best friend lives 7 hours south of me...through a maze of crazy expensive toll roads and Starbucks. :/ Def agree about the instantaneous toilet travel! :)

Lins said...

Ugh, girl I totally relate! I am in NC. My family is in NY. My best friends are in VA, PA, and GA. I hate it. It is definitely hard to feel connected and I'm so OVER-sensitive that the slightest things bother me and I try to fix them.

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Claire @ The Rustic Pig said...

Oh sweet girl!! How I feel your pain!!! We just moved back home (San Antonio) after 13 years of being gone! We got married and moved away 6 months later. So, now that my oldest is 11 and my youngest is 7, I FINALLY have my family back! It's hard though because after 13 years of being gone, now all my besties are in Dallas. :( I wouldn't have traded the experience for anything! God is good, and has a plan for everything! Had I not moved away, I would have never met my two best friends.
If you ever want to come hang out over here (the not-so-Mexico part of SA) then let me know!! :) Hugs!!!